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  • Writer's pictureIbrahim Ismayilov


How To Spot a Narcissist, Evaluate Him, And Move Forward

This is especially difficult for young women who have to create a family and have kids because they can become victims of narcissism. These women need to learn how to spot a narcissist, evaluate him, and move forward. Unfortunately, the decision is often difficult because the woman can not break up with the narcissist as they have kids together or share an established household.

What Causes Narcissism?

· Hereditary (family history)

· Childhood physical, verbal, sexual abuse

· Unstable early relationships with parents, friends, siblings

What Does It Mean To Be a Narcissist?

5% of people are narcissists, and more men are narcissists. They do not typically have autism and psychopathy but other mental issues.

What Attachment Style do narcissists have?

Narcissists have an avoidant attachment style, meaning they avoid sharing and close intimacy. Its possible their parents did not show them love and did not give them enough attention.

Is Psychopathy Related To Narcissism?

They are different disorders; however, they share certain traits. For example, both conditions exhibit narcissistic qualities such as charming behaviour and grandiosity. Psychopathy is more profound, where a psychopath does not experience remorse for his actions. For example, a narcissist is very capable of experiencing some kind of guilt feelings. The narcissist does not want to have a bad public image. Simply said, a psychopath could care less about his image or your feelings. Is It Good To Be a Narcissist?

A very minimal, healthy level of narcissism protects one's mental health. It's important to remember that mental illness exists on a spectrum, and it's never black and white. Some research suggests that minimal levels of narcissism can preserve people's self-esteem, making them more confident and agile in

A very minimal, healthy level of narcissism protects one's mental health. It's important to remember that mental illness exists on a spectrum, and it's never black and white

social interaction. However, suppose narcissistic features are overly exaggerated. In that case, they may interfere significantly with social and professional life and make a person disabled from a psychological point of you. too much narcissism will mean problems at work, divorce, separation, strange relationships with kids, wife, friends and parents.

Can Narcissism Be Treated or Cured?

The word cure means black-and-white and absolute thinking. So the answer to that would be no. However, narcissism can be treated with psychotherapy and medications. More severe cases of narcissism that affect several domes of one's life will require an antidepressant, mood stabilizer or even an antipsychotic medication. Narcissists will need lifelong psychotherapy to learn to better relate to loved ones. The therapist will work on narcissists' self-esteem and introduce realistic expectations of themselves and others in life, work, and relationships. In my experience, getting narcissists to buy into psychotherapy is not easy. The avoidant attachment style will often prevail. They may not acknowledge that they need help. Having a narcissist be completely honest and committed in therapy is challenging. However, these are the challenges for the psychotherapist. Its the therapist's job to establish a meaningful therapeutic relationship with their clients and create a safe place for narcissists to heal. However, if a narcissist commits to psychotherapy, he will likely achieve the expected results. Studies also show that narcissism tends to be less pronounced with age.

What Other Mental Disorders Can Coexist with Narcissism?

5% of people are narcissists, and more men are narcissists. They do not typically have autism and psychopathy but have other coexisting mental issues. The most prevalent are the primary mental issues narcissists experience or substance use, such as alcohol and tobacco. So your average narcissist likes alcohol and smokes cigarettes a lot. They have likely experienced early childhood trauma due to some kind of abuse from a caregiver. Someone in their family may also have narcissistic features.

How Does Narcissism Affect Relationships in Family life?

Narcissism strains all kinds of relationships. Narcissists tend to be insecure on the inside. However, they tend to display robust features on the outside. This is because the public image is crucial for them. After all, their self-esteem is severely compromised, and they do not take criticism well. A typical narcissist will display features such as preoccupation with looks, issues with impulsivity, distrust for behaviour, and an entitled and demanding personality. They tend to crave the approval of other people. They want you to constantly praise them for their achievements. However, it's important to remember that there are up to four subtypes of narcissists. Not each narcissist will display these features. Narcissists do not relate to other people easily; they tend to avoid intense emotions associated with love and openness. They cannot feel vulnerable and have other people witness it. To them, this is a weakness which affects their public image. How does narcissism affect romantic relationships?

A pronounced narcissist might engage in one or some

of the following behaviours: infidelity, gaslighting, manipulation, stonewalling, aloofness, and inability to be open and intimate with a partner. The narcissist Will be self-focused and will not give you credit for all the hard work that you're doing in the relationship. They might take you for granted. They will try to reduce your self-worth and self-concept by telling you hurtful things and reducing your opportunities for a more extraordinary career and a more fulfilling social life. He will not want you to have other people you can depend on. He might be jelous and possessive. His unstable, unregulated mood can affect the children who are around them. A high-functioning narcissist is almost invisible, and it's not dangerous to people around him. A very pronounced narcissist is difficult, as he might be both abusive and sabotage your success. He will not stop ruining your career and relationship with other important people in your life. He will want to maximize his control over you.

What kind of psychotherapy is helpful for a person who suffers from narcissism?

Generally, talk therapies helpful, such as CBT, interpersonal therapy, and mentalization-based treatment. For example, suppose a narcissist has a coexisting mental condition such as substance use, more disorder, anxiety, or PTSD. In that case, it's helpful to assess the extent of these mental conditions and to add adjunct therapies to treat them as well.

Are there tests that can diagnose narcissism?

Yes, specific tests such as PDQ and IPDE can help with the diagnostic process.

How do we help at Crocus Care?

At Crocus Care, we care about the loved ones of the narcissists and the narcissists themselves. We provide therapy services that are evidence-based and efficacious for narcissism. We provide Interpersonal Therapy, Mentalization-based Treatment and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). The sessions are covered by most workplace insurance plans, by IFHP and BlueCross. We also care by raising awareness about narcissism and we post frequently on our social media pages @crocuscaresolutions and @daily_therapist_ca. Check out our instagram, tiktok, youtube and facebook!

Sources: Ibrahim Ismayilov is writer of this blog. He uses his professional experience and knowledge as the Registered Psychotherapist. He used the following sources for this blog in addition to his professional experience: and DSM V diagnostic criteria.

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